Dating Advice for Women: How to Spot Abusers

Jan 17, 2013 13:55:49Posted by John Skorick, MyAKA Founder & CEO

	Dating Advice for Women: How to Spot Abusers

Dating abuse is a very real danger, and women who are looking to start a relationship must know the signs of a potential abuser. It's not always easy to spot someone who may be violently or emotionally abusive, and sometimes the people you least expect turn out to be perpetrators. Below, we provide some dating advice for women to help them understand what constitutes abuse and how to avoid individuals who may be dangerous.

The types of abuse
When you imagine dating violence, images of physical abuse may come to mind, but there are many different types of harm that women should be aware of. In addition to physical abuse individuals may experience verbal or emotional abuse, sexual abuse and even digital abuse, which involves the use of technology to "intimidate, harass or threaten a current or ex-dating partner," according to Break the Cycle.

Signs of abuse
It can be difficult to know whether you're experiencing abuse, but there are some telltale signs that can serve as red flags. If you feel that your partner is constantly putting you down, telling you what to do or accusing you of things you haven't done, then you may be in a dangerous situation, according to loveisrespect. An abusive partner may have an explosive temper or go through intense mood swings, and he or she may try to isolate you from your family and friends. If you're in an unhealthy relationship, there are steps you can take to be as safe as possible, including contacting the advocates at loveisrespect or even the local authorities.

Anyone of any age or gender can be a victim of abuse, the website reports. It's important to be on the lookout for signs of abuse, even if you've only been seeing someone for a short while or feel that the relationship is fairly casual.

Escaping abuse
If you have determined that your partner is indeed abusive, remove yourself from the situation and into a safe space. This can be at a friend or family member's house, or you can seek assistance from your local police. In the digital age, it may be difficult to fully extract yourself from someone abusive if he or she has your email address and phone number. Fortunately, it's easy to get a new email address and a second mobile number to put a barrier between you and your former partner.

Relationships should be about trust, understanding and love. Don't ever let yourself be a victim of abuse - take whatever actions you feel are necessary to protect yourself from dating violence.